Monday, March 31, 2014

The book that just might change my life


First, I need to state that I have never been a big fan of exercise.  I mean I have found ways to actively avoid it for the vast majority of my life.  For two main reasons:  I don’t like to be hot and I don’t like to sweat.

I hated PE in school. I like to be successful (I’ve talked about that before) and I am just not an athletically inclined person.  PE was a daily reminder of exactly how non-athletic I was.  Ironically, I played tennis in high school, it’s really the only sport I’ve ever been able to play with any advanced level of skill.  I really love it.  Still enjoy playing it.

So, it’s kind of humorous that I picked Spark: TheRevolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain by John J. Ratey as one of my reading lists in the Quest.  But, when I was researching the most interesting books out there, it kept coming up by the experts.  I thought since exercise was part of the Quest, it might be an interesting read early in the process.  I even gave myself two months to finish it because I was fairly certain the content would bore me to death.

Quite the opposite.  I finished it in three weeks and this book has changed my opinion of exercise forever.  For once it wasn’t about losing weight and pushing your limits, it was about the impact of exercise on the brain.

See, I like my brain.  I want it to function well for many, many, many years.  I love to read, to think, to be creative and to learn.  The thought of not having that one day terrifies me.  But as I get older, I see how it gets harder to keep up with everything going on.  Over the last year, I felt my creativity waning.  Usually I was sparking with ideas—all the time.  But, based on a myriad of reasons over the last year, that creativity was slowly fading.  And, it was frustrating.

So, I was curious to see if this book could give me a possible way to combat that physically.  And it did.  Ratey does an amazing job of showing how exercise raises dopamine and activates parts of your brain that enhance your mental performance.  Our body sends out all kinds of chemicals through different receptors.  It’s a fine balance of stimulants and calming agents.  You need both of them to stay at your strongest mental state.  They don’t always have to be in there in equal parts—sometimes  you need more stimulant, sometimes you need more calm.  Sometimes you have too much of one and need more of the other.  That’s where exercise comes into play.  It puts the right agents in your body naturally to help reduce the need for medicine or other forms of balance.  It doesn’t always eliminate the need for medication, but it can help improve the effects or reduce the amount.

Keeping in mind that your body and your brain are a constant balancing act of stimulants and calming agents, you can see where exercise can have an effect on many conditions that we all deal with.  Ratey specifically addresses learning, stress, anxiety, depression, attention deficit, addiction, and aging. He goes into detail about how exercise can have a positive impact on each of these conditions. 

Here were some of my major learnings from the book:
  • When we exercise in response to stress, we’re doing what human beings have evolved to do over the past several million years.  It’s like flight or fight.  Our body should react to stress—not try to avoid it.
  • The cortisol that creates belly fat is caused by stress.  Exercising to combat the stress as it’s happening will help stop the belly fat before it comes.
  • When you are going through bouts of stress and depression, it’s the chemical makeup of your brain that prevents you from remembering things and causing trouble with learning—not your “mood” or lack of interest.
  • Exercise and socialization are evolutionary antidotes to stress.  It’s how we were originally designed!
  • The great thing about exercise is that it fires up the recovery process in our muscles and our neurons.  It leaves our bodies and minds stronger and more resilient, better able to handle future challenges, to think on our feet and adapt more easily. (pg. 87)
  • The more stress you have, the more your body needs to move to keep your brain running smoothly.
  • Marijuana, exercise, and chocolate all activate the same receptors in the brain.
  • Start slow, stay connected to people and stay consistent on a routine.  As you stay consistent, your body will adapt itself to take advantage of the activity.

These are just a few of the things I underlined as I read this, but the book is filled with real-life examples of how people are using exercise to keep their minds and their moods healthy.  If you need proof, this is the place to find it.

So, my big takeaway.  This book has a lot of biology in it.  But, it approached exercise in a way that I needed to hear.  It finally spoke to something I care about. 

I put this theory into practice.  I started finding ways to exercise before meetings that required brainstorming or strategic planning.  I have to say, it works.  I feel and see my “spark” re-igniting. 

And of course the big question is always weight.  I’ve been amused as people hear I’m working out regularly because they immediately ask if I’ve lost weight or if I feel better.  I respond, “I don’t know, because I’m not doing it for my weight, I’m doing it for my BRAIN.”  My weight is what it is.  I’ve been big, I’ve been small, I’ve been in between—it will always be a journey to me so exercise for weight has never been a motivation factor.  But my brain?  I want to keep it moving forever and I want to get as much out of it as possible.  It can’t be at its best, if I am not moving.  Exercise is the key to keeping it around for a long time. I’m sure the other benefits of exercise will kick in (or may already have) but in my book, a Jennie who moves is a Jennie who’s has a happy brain.  Happy brain=happy life. 


So these concepts (along with my awesome get moving coach, Kelly) helps me to stay motivated during my work outs.  And thank you to everyone (especially my patient mother and sister) who’ve I’ve annoyed with every detail of this book as I’ve read it for the last month. Now let's get our brains moving!

Saturday, March 22, 2014

Say Cheese!


Very big accomplishment today so I had to brag for a second. I had my first dentist visit since I started flossing regularly and reduced soda.

Wow, what a difference it made. 

I got a congratulations from my awesome dentist as well. You may think this isn't a big deal, but I've always hated how sore my mouth was after a visit. My gums always bled all over, the back molers were always dangerously close to gum disease and my mouth just hurt. 

Today, only one tiny spot bled, my back moler gums were not in danger and I had very little tartar so my cleaning was super smooth. As much as I didn't want to admit it, flossing works y'all. 

I got a tip from the hygienist-- who is also in a local band that I'm going to try to go see-- she said to use the picks in the front and string floss in the back. She also suggested wrapping the string around your middle fingers because you can control it better. 

One of my beauty coaches, Kara, recommended a water pic too. I'm on the hunt for one. Now that I know how much better a visit can go, I am all aboard the dental train. Next cleaning is in September. Can't wait to see how EVEN better that one will go!

Crazy what puts you in a great mood. It's been a good day all around!

Thursday, March 20, 2014

Don't Fight It



Hang with me on this. It's vague intentionally, but I can't let this week pass without sharing a big learning. Huge. And, I committed myself to sharing the good, the bad, and the better in this blog.

It's funny how what you think you want is really not what you want at all. And, it doesn't matter what the situation is, if it isn't right, it will just never come together. The timing is off, the expectations are too high, or sometimes you just need to be honest about what's right for you. When you are fighting this kind of stuff, you will not win.

On the flip side, when you find the person, the thing, or the direction that is right-- no matter how much you try to screw it up, you can't. It's a constant.

I felt it full force from both sides in the last two days. It was frustrating, enlightening and frankly, I'm glad it's over. But, something really good came from all of it. I learned how to re-engage a part of myself.

Someone I really respect made a reference to wanting me to get back to the person he knew a year ago. I get what he meant, but I know I'm not who I used to be. Parts of that girl are working their way back, but parts I've intentionally dialed back because they aren't really me. I'm OK with that. I'm a work in progress. And while it isn't perfect now, down the road with some calibration, it will be a hell of a story to share. And, I won't be the person that I used to be. In my opinion, I'll be way better :).

Fast forward to the last six hours and that's when the re-engagement happened-- I think it's a God thing. I gave a pretty direct comment to a very trusted friend. Little did I know that my comment was in direct line with something he was working on. And, if it works out it could be a very good thing.

To quote one of my favorite parts of Jersey Boys-- Nick Massi talks about why he made a decision that surprised the group:

"I don't know why I said it. It just came out of my mouth. But once I said it, I knew it was what I wanted."

Luckily, I said it to the right person-- so hopefully a new adventure could be on the horizon. But even if it isn't, it's still OK. It's all a part of the journey.

Sorry for the random post, but it'll all make sense later. I hope. Ha!

Sunday, March 16, 2014

Ups, Downs and All-Arounds


It's been a super busy week on the Quest front. The week started with a quick weekend in NYC. I went with my "Go and Do Stuff" coach, Kelly and we had a great time. We decided to try something different, since this whole year is about new experiences. So we went up. Way up. We took a helicopter tour around the City.   I have to say it was an awesome memory. If you want to do one, I highly recommend Manhattan Helicopters. We caught a show, got our nails done, ate great food and sadly had to go back to reality within 48 hours. And, best of all, I got to see my awesome "Beauty" coaches Julie and Kara.  Love my hair family.

(view from the helicopter)

I was back in town and had one hour of sleep under my belt when my cell started ringing with a work emergency. I won't give details, but it was a nervous moment that wasn't resolved for another 12 hours. But, we had a very happy ending. I, however, hit a wall when I realized I was pulling my seventeenth hour of work on one hour of sleep. Luckily, I work with great people and they helped me wrap it all up and get home!

So the first two days were kind of a wash. But My "Get Moving" coach Kelly got me back in the swing and we hit the gym. I actually accomplished my goal of two visits for the week. It's seriously a great way to relieve stress and have a quiet moment. I'm really glad I started it, and I'm grateful that my company provides a nice space to exercise. 

I was all proud of staying on track and then it hit me:  the one habit I neglected was my gratitude page for the week. So, I'm going to have to make that a priority. I'm not going to backfill-- just going to start it again.  

Now, I'm heading into another week and this one's gonna be crazy too. But my goal is to stay focused, not lose my habits and give it my best. 

Have a great Monday!  

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Here's your sign...


I have lots to share, but for once I am actually too tired to type. But for the people who read my blog regularly, this note's for you-- because you are awesome. All three of you :)

Stay tuned. Lots to share in the coming days about helicopter rides, working out and working on a novel/screenplay. Where to begin... Who knew in the first two months I'd be this busy on the quest!  I guess that was the point...

Go out and do something good today. Make it a great one!

Monday, March 10, 2014

Get MOVING!



Well, I started the process of “working out” at work.  My company has an on-site exercise facility that associates can access.  The concept of exercising during the day was a little daunting for me. But, luckily I have the greatest “Get Moving” coach ever.
My coach is Kelly Dell’Anno.  She joined my company a few months before I did and actually works for our health and wellness team—primarily with setting up programs in our facilities and communications for those programs that are happening across the organization. 

I love working with Kelly.  She’s was certainly one of my first friends when I was new on the job.  One of the things Kelly does that inspired me—she is relentless about finding opportunities to work out during breaks in the day.  As a result, she manages her stress well, and is always in great shape. And she is just great fun to be around. 

So, I decided I would take advantage of our on-site facility and commit to exercise at least twice a week starting in March.  I have an elliptical at home so I wanted to start with just weight machines—you can get a good workout and not walk out too gross to finish the day.  I can follow it up with cardio at home.

Lucky for me, my coach took her job seriously and immediately got me scheduled in the gym.  I was offsite in a meeting for half of the week so we got a late start.  But, last Friday we ventured into the gym.  And, I learned that Kelly isn’t just someone who works out, she is pretty amazing at understanding where all the areas are that you should work on in your body.  This is a good thing, because it is all a true mystery to me. 

Kelly walked me through all the machines and while it might sound silly, it was great to have someone show me the proper form and how to adjust the machines correctly.  Here’s what I’ve learned from day one:
  1. If you can do 8-10 reps at a certain weight and feel like it is a challenge then it is the right weight.  If you can’t do at least 8 reps, it is too heavy.  If you can do 15 reps with minimal effort, then it’s too light.
  2. Seats go up and down and machines can be adjusted to fit your body.  Just because your seat is in the position it’s in, if it doesn’t feel comfortable, you need to move it to where you will be.
  3. The hard part is not the exercise itself, but the focus to go downstairs to do it. 
  4. Bring a towel and get a gym bag.  For day one, I did not bring a towel and I rolled into the locker room with my stuff in a Nordstrom’s bag.  That’s appropriate.

Kelly and I scheduled two more sessions this week (Wed and Fri) but I’m going to try to get down there as much as I can so it becomes a habit. 

Having someone who is willing to follow up with me and encourage me through the process is amazing.  If you are going to start an exercise routine, you need to find your Kelly.  It makes it so much better and fun. 

A huge thank you and shout out to Kelly—you rock and I’ll see you in the gym on Wednesday!

(this pic is following our first session-- awesome)

Wednesday, March 5, 2014

How Untethered Can I Get?

It took me a few days longer than planned, but I finally finished “The Untethered Soul” by Michael A. Singer.  First, I have to say that it is a pretty spectacular book.  If you want to be alone with your thoughts for a while, it is the book to read.  It took me a while to digest because the content was really difficult to absorb and come to terms with.  But, if you are willing to go out there, it’s totally worth it.

The basic purpose of the book is to help with transcendence.  I know, that sounds spacey, but it really is about learning how to face the good and bad in life but never lose your center.  I like the concept that we are who we are and life happens around us, not to us.  It’s our reactions that determine if we are stressed, happy, angry, frustrated, sad, etc.  It also talked about how we think we know who we “are” but really that’s just a construct of life experiences that we’ve chosen to accept.  For example: I have never believed I was a very athletic person and I just assumed since my parents had certain metabolisms, that was my future as well.  I also have a tendency to like to be the leader or the “best” at something.  So when I put it together, I wasn’t the best at sports and it bothered me.  I also saw that not everyone led an active lifestyle.  So I just put the construct up that I could be a couch potato because that was “me”.   In actuality, I have a sister who exercises daily and looks totally different than I do.  She always has.  For some reason, she chose not to build the constructs I did and embraced different habits.

The book challenged me to drop those constructs.  I might be the greatest unknown distance runner on earth.  I need to accept that I'm not always the best at some things.  I like the fact that I can drop some of these ideas about myself.  It’s freeing.  It means I can try pretty much anything.  I intend to do just that.  And not to “find myself,” but rather to embrace the experience, learn from it and stay centered. I think that's what the quest is really all about if you boil it down.

Singer encourages us to focus on core beliefs instead of goals.  Instead of saying, I want a certain type of job, or I need to accomplish X amount of things in my life—we should be saying “I want to be happy”, or “I want to be honest”, or “I want to be encouraging.”  And he says we should never allow life to sway us away from those beliefs.  If we want to be happy, we have to commit to it—even if the world is falling apart around us and sad things happen.  We can choose to let it consume us, or remember our happy and stay centered.

The book ends with an amazing chapter on walking with God.  But you can’t skip to the end.  You have to read all the heady stuff before it to really appreciate what he is saying.  But I’m telling you it made me tear up when I realized how simple it all really was.

Deep right?  Told ya.  So again, if you want to dig deep, get this book.  We can be untethered together.

Up next is a totally different read:  “SPARK! The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain” by John J. Ratey, M.D. and Eric Hagerman.  It’s all about understanding the effect exercise has on the human brain.  Good thing I’m about to become the most happily mediocre athlete ever. 

Have a great day friends!

Monday, March 3, 2014

Feb. Results: what matters gets measured...


Ok, so month one is in the books and I already shared my learning points, but thought I owed at least a score card of the actual goals. I'm pretty proud. And appreciate my accountability team and coaches so much for keeping me going.  And special shout out to my coach Julie who I can't wait to see this weekend!  

Goal One:      
  • Floss—HABIT!
  • Reducing soda to one a day—HABIT!
  • Begin exercise program and join a gym—joined the gym, minor exercise. This one gets new energy this month. 
  • Start to track the “numbers". -- I started tracking. Some weren't so hot, some weren't so bad!
Goal Two:
  • Find a church in town-- rerouted. Decided not to do this one, but am finding many ways to follow faith-- blogs to come (it'll make sense then)
  • One day of a social media fast—It took 3 tries but I nailed it. 
  • Finish reading The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael A. Singer http://www.untetheredsoul.com/ -- almost done. 70 more pages left. But it's pretty epic. Lots to share with all of you, however I'm going to read the whole process before sharing. 
Goal Three:    
  • Start a savings account-- HABIT!  And even got a candy treat at the bank. 
More fun to come in March. I think it will be a good month. Let's get started....